Unconditional Love

“Whenever we manage to love without expectations, calculations, negotiations, we are indeed in heaven.”
Rumi

” Anyone can choose you in your glow, but I will choose you even when it is extinguished, and even if I see the light in others, I will choose your darkness”.
Shams Tabrizi

What is Unconditional Love?

Unconditional love means loving without criteria or expectations.Affection does not stop if the other person behaves a certain way or doesn’t do what you ask. A UCLA study found that children who experienced more unconditional love from their caregivers were emotionally happier and less anxious, while those with less parental warmth showed higher stress, cholesterol and blood pressure.

Unconditional love is a core human need

It’s worth noting a critical point here: unconditional love is core human need, like food and water.

Psychiatry research has shown over generations, from 1900s Carl Jung to modern Internal Family Systems, that the process of rejecting a part of a person leads to significant harm to their mental and physical health. It has negative impacts on their future wellbeing in all areas of their life – family, school, work and self-esteem. We need to learn to unconditionally love, as that’s the most evidence-based method of promoting good mental health. Learning unconditional love requires work, research and professional support, especially for those who have had traumatic childhoods.

Unconditional love will heal us whenever we’re ready

The good news is that we can heal through unconditional love at any point in our lives! If we missed out on it as children, we can give that love to ourselves now or open ourselves to receiving it from others. Unconditional love exists to heal us whenever we are ready to let it in.

Unconditional love is integral to the healing methodology of Carl Jung, Dr Richard Schwartz’ Internal Family Systems and Rumi.

Why is it important to unconditionally love our children?

The benefits of unconditional love are innumerable. It is core to the human experience. Some of its benefits can include:

• Improved connection between parents and children
• Better physical, mental and psychological health for parents and children
• Children love and respect themselves more
• Improved self-esteem
• Improved academic and career performance for our children
• Longer life expectancy
• And so much more!

Parenting revolution

Previous generations have not had the security or resources to prioritise love. In our generation, we have the first opportunity to prioritise knowing love and gifting it to the next generation. We and all future generations deserve this incredible parenting revolution.